One of my long-term dreams is to have a second home—a cottage, really—with gardens outside and many wood items and books inside. But this cottage wouldn’t be for me. It would be for you (if you are a poet or a writer), and I would stop by for a little life coaching if you were interested.
Whether or not the cottage ever becomes a reality, it is fun to dream. Perhaps you, too, have a dream deferred.
Here Are 5 Things to Do With a Dream Deferred
1. Flip it on its head.
When I shared my Poets and Writers House dream with one of my networks, people were quite interested in the idea. And they especially liked my mention of homemade soup and of life coaching. Listening to this network of people being so enthusiastic, I realized I could flip the dream on its head, at least for a while. Minus the cottage and gardens and soup, I could still do life coaching and create a welcoming space for creative people to find respite and growth. So here I am.
What dream do you have, that with a little creativity you could flip on its head? Consider the essential nature of the dream and then… flip.
2. Support a similar dream.
In my town, there’s an effort just getting going, to revive a landmark theater as a cultural center for cuisine, business gatherings, and concerts. Interestingly, it has just enough “Poets and Writers House” feel to me that I am musing about supporting the effort in some way.
How about you? Does someone else have a dream you might consider supporting, because it could be a form of your own wished-for directions in the world?
3. Try it on, piece by piece.
If I were really serious about my Poets and Writers House dream, it might make sense for me to stand in for a bed-and-breakfast owner from time to time. I could also try running very small retreats at different venues that feature gardens and books, and the retreats could focus less on poetry and writing and more on Artist Dates. In this way, I’d gain valuable knowledge and learn what I actually loved (or didn’t love) about the experiences—all before committing to the investment of real estate and time.
If you are waiting on a dream deferred, how can you build towards it today by trying on a piece of the dream?
Depending on how serious you are about your deferred dream, you could do light or heavy research on the matter. If you prefer to just play around to begin, you could start a simple dreams file on Pinterest. For my Poets and Writers House dream, it seemed more fun to play with the idea of tiny homes and cottages on Zillow than to do any serious research. In fact, if I never get interested in serious research, it may be that I’m actually happier with my dream deferred.
What about you? Is there some research you could begin, right now, that would start building an actual foundation for your dream?
5. Put it in a story.
Another way to explore your dream is to write a story that contains it. If I ever write a novel about a Poets and Writers House, you’ll know what I’m doing.
However, if you write a novel about a man lost at sea, I won’t assume I know what you’re doing. Unless you’ve been talking about learning to sail and living on seaweed. But if your novel has a Poets and Writers House, I’ll chalk that up to you supporting my dream.